As someone who both works in social media professionally and uses it personally to connect with others, the lines often feel blurred between work and play. I spend my days crafting captions for clients, researching influencers, and engaging with potential consumers. After an 8-hour work day, I then spend my evenings catching up on what my favorite internet folks have been up to, scrolling to make sure I haven’t missed any new memes, and running my own social account to promote my entrepreneurial endeavors. And after approximately six straight years of doing so, it suddenly became clear to me that these apps that I rely so heavily on for work and personal matters have overtaken my entire existence. From the moment I wake up until the moment I go to bed, I am either looking at social media or planning social media content. I am not only part of the problem that fuels this social media addiction, but I am a living example of what work life balance should 100% not be.
And that podcast I was listening to had a therapist on it who was talking about how people with anxiety and depression are seemingly handling this better than others because they deal with this level of stress on a daily basis. And I had to laugh out loud, because I do believe it's true. She said something to the effect of, "This is what being on the verge of a panic attack feels like for those who are unfamiliar." So, if you are one of those people who can't stop watching the news and hiding under your covers, I totally feel that. I've felt it on more occasions than I would care to admit. And I promise we'll come out on the other side of this.
Here are some ways I'm taking care of my mental health during quarantine. I hope some of them can help you all, too!
As I gear up to host my first ever The Balancing Effect event with the world in just two short weeks (holy moly guys!), I've been thinking a lot about imposter + comparison syndrome and how we as either a) small businesses owners, b) aspiring entrepreneurs, or c) women in general in today's society compare ourselves so harshly to others and feel as if we do not belong or deserve all the great things. I had those thoughts so intensely when I first had the idea for A Toast to Women in August 2019. Who am I to create this event? I'm a nobody. No one knows my name. No one will care. People will laugh at my attempts to do good in the community. But you know what? I'm so tired of playing small for fear of what other people think of me. I'm tired of dimming my shine for fear that it may be "too bright" for others. I'm tired of not going after the things that I believe in so greatly because of the opinions of others. So I'm diving head first and swimming this marathon until I cross the finish line. And I'm going to make sure people know what I'm up to. Because it's important and I deserve to be in this arena as much as anyone else. We all do.
For this week's blog, I wanted to share 20 reminders/tips for all those who may be dealing with imposter + comparison syndrome. You deserve to be here and your ideas are important. So read the below and remember these things every time you start to feel small. You, my friend, are worthy of all the great things.
Change doesn't happen overnight. Change, to me, is more of a slow and steady race against the you you hope to be and the you you want to leave behind. It's taken me years to build up my healthy habits and change my negative mindsets, and I've still got a lot of work to do. See below for some of the simple switches I work to make in my daily life that help me become the best version of myself. Know that yours may look very different from mine, and that's okay!
Similarly to looking back at the previous year to celebrate successes and failures, I always like to look ahead to the new year as well and get excited for all that's to come! I've got some big things happening in 2020, both personally and professionally. And while I won't give away alllll of my news for The Balancing Effect just yet, I'll still give you a little peek into some of the things I'm most looking forward to in 2020!