This week, I thought it'd be fun to dig a little deeper into my New Years Resolutions and why they are important to me this year. My hope is that it encourages you to take a closer look at your own and get inspired to implement them all year long!
Keep crushing it with The Balancing Effect
This year, I've made a goal to match the money I make with The Balancing Effect to my full-time 9-5, so I've got a whole lot of work to do here :) I have SO many business goals for the year that I'm not ready to reveal to you all just yet because I want some of them to be a fun surprise, but know that this year I will be unveiling two new products, announcing and hosting the first ever Balancing Effect event, and launching more anxiety related content ;) I can't thank you all enough for your support with this new endeavor! It makes my heart so happy to know that you all are loving your True North Planners. I'm so pumped to continue this journey and give you more products, services, and content to help you become the greatest version of yourselves!
Read more books
This year, my goal is to read one book per month. I set a goal to read 15 books last year that I didn't meet, but for good reason - every spare minute was spent creating the True North Planners! :) Reading for pleasure was something I did so frequently in my youth. I always had a book with me and would often get in trouble in class for sneaking to read it. During college, reading for pleasure fell by the wayside due to the amount of school reading I was doing. As an adult, I feel like it's come and gone in waves with the stages of my life. This year I'm trying to prioritize reading for fun instead of reading self-care/self-help/motivational books that make me feel like I'm being productive LOL.
More time with those who matter most, less/no time with those who don’t
This year I really figured out who my core group of friends were and who, quite frankly, wasn't worth my time. Adult friendships are often hard because everyone has opposing schedules and is running in different directions, but prioritizing the people who mean the most to me and making time on my schedule to see them is super important to me this year. Whether that means a standing biweekly girls night with my three closest friends who live in my town or taking an extra trip this year to see my bestie who lives up North, I'm making it happen.
Little to no alcohol consumption
This is something that has never been a thought to me until this year, but I have recognized my patterns and behaviors for long enough to know that, I don't very much like the version of me who drinks at this point in my life. And that's a hard realization guys. It's not that I'm an alcoholic or anything, I just often find myself pushing my limits and also drinking to help with my anxiety in social settings, which is not something I want to continue. I'm not saying I'm cutting out alcohol completely, but I am setting a two drink limit rule for myself in social settings and also making shifts at home to help with my anxiety so that I don't want to reach for a glass of wine in the evenings. Lately, that has looked like a CBD pill and a cup of hot tea. I've also been enjoying kombucha or sparkling water in a wine glass lately, which is a wonderful mind trick!
More experiences, less material things
I'm aware of how incredibly cliche the above sounds, but one of my consistent goals has been to minimize my life in terms of "stuff" and make room for more of what matters. I do feel like I did a good job at this last year, but I hope to continue these habits in the new year as well. To me, this looks like not buying extra home decor whenever I think something is cute, being incredibly selective of the clothing I purchase, purging my closet once a year, making more meals at home, etc. In 2019, those habits gave me the extra funds to be able to go on some incredible trips, and that's exactly what I plan to do this year as well.
Stay authentically you without fear of looking good/upholding a certain image
Woof. This one's a toughie. So, the main reason I stopped writing for my previous blog Tori Talks was because I felt like others were judging/mocking me and I was so worried about what everyone thought of me. How silly is that? My epiphany for The Balancing Effect was very much rooted in the idea that I was done caring about what others thought (for the full blog post about this, click here), so this is simply my reminder to myself that what I am saying matters and is relevant to others, and that my mental health mission is so important that I cannot afford to lose sight of why I started it. It's dangerous playing the comparison game, friends. Please know that you are uniquely you for a reason and that your voice, thoughts, feelings, etc. are just as important, valid, and seen as everyone else's.
Embrace the struggle/chaos/grind
2019 was a year of chaos, and I see no signs of that slowing down in 2020 with all of the business goals I have for The Balancing Effect. In the past, living in a constant state of uncertainty would have sent me in a downward spiral (hi, anxiety). This is something I work on every day, and it's something I'm choosing to take into the new year. This year, I'm working to embrace the messy grind knowing that the benefits will come so long as I put in the hard work now. I'm ready to roll up my sleeves and do the damn thing.
Whether it be products, content, events, etc....I will never let myself lose sight of what I love most again for fear of looking good to others :)
Continue healthy choices, habits, and routines
Those of you who know me know that I'm a self-care/self-love advocate, but few of you may know that largely stems from the eating disorder I had when I was a teenager. To me, I want to make sure I'm treating my body and mind with the utmost respect now because I deprived it so much in the past. This means taking exercise classes 4-5 times a week, fueling my body with nutritious foods, sticking to a skincare routine, getting the rest I need, reading books, spending time with loves ones, making time for myself... the list goes on and on. I'm continuing to prioritize my health in 2020, like I always will for years to come.
Give yourself (and others) grace
We are our harshest critics, guys. And I often don't cut myself a break and have these mental mind games that tell me I should be doing more constantly. This year, I'm telling those voices to shut up and allowing myself to enjoy the rest I deserve. I'm also allowing myself to mess up, make mistakes, and fail.
What are your New Years Resolutions this year, friends? And how will you make sure you embody them each and every day?