When I created Tori Talks in August of 2016, I did so to fill a creative void in my life and also to help keep my sanity. I was lost, confused, and had no sense of direction as a young adult. I was overcome with fear for the future and so I used my passion for writing to keep me afloat. And as it turns out, other people were having similar experiences and could relate to my troubles. A beautiful community of wellness warriors was born, and we began to root for one another in all of our endeavors. To this day, we still do. Hey ladies. Love you, mean it. Keep f*cking crushing it out there.
And then everything began to fall into place for me - a great job, an incredible husband, and so on…and I began to feel shame and embarrassment posting articles about mental health despite my seemingly “put together” life. Someone literally told me during this time that I was the most put together twenty something they’d ever met and I wanted to laugh and cry and scream all at the same time. I felt the need to uphold a new image of a carefree, cool girl who works in social media and I didn’t want my coworkers, clients, or peers to stumble upon a blog post and see me as weak.
Somewhere along the way, I allowed my flame to fade and I let my fear of being accepted keep me from doing the one thing I love most: storytelling in the hopes of helping others.
I've never minded sharing my stuff with people. I’ve always been open about the things that have made me who I am whether it be the eating disorder I overcame or my anxiety disorder that I’ve dealt with since my teenage years. We’re just people, folks. And despite all of the things I just mentioned, I’m actually quite lovely company. I think people get scared when they hear the word “disorder” and they assume that someone is a depressing person to be around because they’ve actually been through things in their life. When in reality, those are the very people who will light your life up because they have stories to share that will ultimately shape yours.
I've spent the majority of my life working to earn the approval of others and make them proud. Let me be extremely clear that, from now on, I will not stop failing forward until I make myself proud.
So, after months of blogging silence, soul searching, and several breakdowns…I had an epiphany on the plane while on my way back from Colorado in January. Everything I had written and wanted to continue to write on Tori Talks was still so relevant to my life, but it needed to be packaged in a more mindful way that reflected my adult life. The only thing I ever cared to write about was mental health and wellness, so I decided I should exclusively write about those things and stop trying to fit some blogger mold and throwing in the occasional fashion or travel post to seem cool and relevant. Cool is overrated, friends. And so, welcome to The Balancing Effect. This space is all about mindful living for motivated women. I’m here to share all the things with you, and I don't care who may stumble upon my posts ;) You can think of it as Tori Talks 2.0, but better! Because not only will The Balancing Effect provide mindful content, but it will also provide mindful products and services to help you become the greatest version of yourself.
To commemorate this new chapter, I wanted to do something really special...something that would reflect everything I had built with Tori Talks and everything I hope to build with The Balancing Effect. I wanted to create something that would help others in a really mindful and meaningful way. So, with that said, allow me to introduce you to the very first Balancing Effect product...
Say hello to the True North Planner created by yours truly - a gift for all of my mindful, motivated gals. You can order yours today over on the shop section of this website!
Inside this planner, you’ll find annual, monthly, and weekly inquiries to help you dig deeper and recognize the patterns that are either helping or hindering you from reaching your goals. You’ll also find fun weekly challenges to ensure self-love is a constant part of your life and relatable, inspirational quotes to motivate you. I like to think of the True North Planner as your own personal hype gal, guiding you to stay in the present moment and work towards achievable goals at a steady pace.
I named this product the True North Planner because your True North is your internal compass that guides you through life. It’s the core of who you are as a human being and it’s what you use to make all of life’s decisions.
And I think we’re all just trying to find the balance and navigate our True North amidst the chaos of this crazy thing called life, wouldn’t you agree?
5% of proceeds from every True North Planner sale will go to locally founded Charleston nonprofit Lost Got Found, an organization dedicated to eliminating the negative stigma surrounding mental health.
Now, let’s do the damn thing - shall we?